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Decency

The two candidates have been compared in many ways but values and personality have taken precedence over policy.  The word "decent" has been bandied about.  Decency is a personal quality, albeit somewhat intangible.  Decency can also characterize policies and be very tangible.  Here are my suggestions:

My Vote

Without disclosing names, here's a recent e-mail response to some dear friends.  Ann suggested I share it with you all.  

I’ve been mulling over our short conversation the other night.  I know you’re steadfast in your intentions – you made clear your belief that xxxxxxx jobs are back (despite yyyyyy’s layoffs in December) and that you share his “values”. It would be disrespectful and condescending to argue your points of view. 

Instead, let me tell you why I will vote the other way.  The Democratic Platform holds promise of job growth in both numbers and quality through infrastructure and renewable energy projects, paid for by increasing upper bracket and corporate tax rates; of re-negotiation of Pacific Partnership trade agreements; of incentives for domestic investment and employment; and of expansion of access to health insurance and early education.  The Economist editors, inherently conservative, endorsed Biden’s economic plans this week though they wish him to be even more aggressive. 

The second reason for my vote is the Democrat’s recognition that our existential problems are trans-national and must be addressed with multi-national collaborations; I’m talking about nuclear arms control, climate change, and economically/environmentally-driven migration. 

The third reason is your word “values.”  As it happens, a few months ago I reflected on and wrote down what qualities I value. I posted the list above my desk alongside my mission statement.  The values list reads:

• Truth

• Freedom

• Accountability

• Empathy

• Compassion

• Community

• Equity

• Justice

• Action (when called for)

• Acceptance (when called for)

        (And I should go back and add "the wisdom to know the difference")

I will be voting for the candidate I feel best exemplifies these values. No disrespect for your intentions, just a different intention for me.  Love,

Fletch

Reflections on the DEI Education of an Old, White Guy

 

I am the son of Fletch Waller, Senior, who, as an eleven year old, watched the Klan burn a cross on his front yard in protest of and to intimidate my Grandad who, as YMCA Secretary and Chair of the Akron, Ohio School Board, championed the Americanization and education of immigrants, whether white or black, whether Protestant, Catholic or Jew.  Ever after, the only thing of which my father was intolerant was intolerance.  He oversaw desegregation of War Dept contractors and after the war, AEC contractors. I, Fletch II, grew up believing I obviously was tolerant, was not prejudiced against anybody, was certainly not a racist. Diversity, equity, inclusion – these are all good things, aren’t they? I went to college blithely unconcerned about discrimination that was there if one troubled to look.  I chose to live siloed in a Greek house with people like me, people with what Isabel Wilkerson has called “the visible assumption of centrality.” 

I got a book education; I needed a life education.

The first step on the ladder was when my in-laws told me my visiting Jewish friends from grad school could not join us to dine at Atlanta’s Capital City Club; what was I to do when their daughter, my wife, demanded we go? I went -- and have ever after regretted it and feel shamed when I think of David and Charlotte. Soon after came basic training, the first time I had lived with, worked with, and worked under direction of Blacks and Latinos. Our infantry company had a rich mix of Southies from Boston, Puerto Ricans, African-Americans from Newark and north Jersey, and east coast and mid-Atlantic whites; I was one of two college grads and the only one with a post-grad degree. (The army assigned me an auto mechanic MOS; so much for grad school.) For the first time, I was seeing suppressed prejudice between blacks, browns and whites. I got on OK with all, officers and em’s; of course I got on well: I was unprejudiced, educated, of  leadership quality, fully deserving – wasn’t I?

That bubble of superiority sprang a leak when, at age 29, I served as chairman of the jury on a nasty gang-rape case, in Minneapolis.  I found myself surprised and impressed by the diligence and good judgment of my fellow middle- and lower-class jurors who worked long hours to be thorough and responsible. My surprise made me recognize my unconscious assumption that the judgment and insight of ordinary folk were to be doubted.  Recognition that maybe I wasn’t so special after all: education step number two.      

Into the ‘60s: feminism and black civil rights.  Outspoken women making logical arguments.  Live TV coverage of non-violent, lunch-counter sit-ins; of Freedom Rides and burned busses; of bus boycotts and voter-registration drives (led by my college classmate Bob Moses, field director for SNCC); of the murder of Schwerner, Chaney, and Goodman; of the March on Washington, my still segregated hometown, and MLK on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial; Malcom X and Mohammed Ali giving up his crown and becoming a hero to me. Then '68: worst year in America since 1860. MLK, Wallace, RFK, the Chicago convention at which Bob Moses led the Mississippi Freedom Delegation and state-sponsored violence was unleashed. Should I not be doing something? What? How? Ill wife, three kids, mortgage: what was the responsibility of an anguished, supposed liberal? 

The '70s, back to Minneapolis.  General Mills adopted affirmative action.  Every department had to set numerical goals for blacks and women which were tallied alongside all the other objectives to determine one’s performance-based bonus.  My units were in pretty good shape except for the distribution center, 90% women but no Blacks, and the Betty Crocker Kitchens, all women, some blacks, no men.  We set goals in each of my departments.  VP Mercedes Bates claimed there were no male home economists to recruit to the Betty Crocker Kitchens but did hire a male steward who turned out to be flamingly gay, much to the delight of the girls in the kitchens and to the sophomoric amusement of my fellow execs. The first challenge to my aversion to homosexuals. Several departments met our goals, finding perfectly capable Blacks and women in market research, advertising, promotion, packaging, etc.; even a male nutritionist for that previously all-female dept.  The one exception was the BC Coupon and distribution center. When at year-end I dinged the director’s bonus half a percentage point (of salary) he left my office in a huff, hollering “why didn’t you tell me you were serious? Next year that center is going to look like a watermelon patch.”  I had to haul him back onto the carpet for that one.

In the meantime, our Medial Director asked if he could transfer me to the care of a woman physician he had hired. Sure. After my first exam with her, I proudly proclaimed to my wife that I had been to a woman doctor.  “Big fucking deal” she told me, maybe the first time I had heard her use the word, “I’ve been poked and prodded all my life by doctors of the opposite sex!”  Another unconscious attitude unceremoniously exposed and punctured.

I moved on, to Marriott. I had lots and lots of saleswomen; of a hundred directors of marketing, the females I could count on one hand; no women regional marketing directors; no black marketers at all. Marriott at that time, the early ‘80s, had but one Black and one woman GM but Bill Marriott was determined on change and was supportive of my efforts in marketing, reservations and sales.  We made considerable progress in four short years, particularly with women, less so with people of color, but leaving much still to be done. When I briefed Bill and Fred Malek, head of the hotel division, on my new marketing and reservations organization, I named my director for travel industry.  “Isn’t he” – former Green Beret Fred hesitated – “ah – uh -- a bit effeminate?” “Well” I replied, “he’s gay of course but I don’t find him effeminate”: gasps. To Bill’s credit, he soon would not go to a travel show or event without Ed by his side. Not sure Fred ever got comfortable – with Ed or with me.

Soon after joining Marriott, I got a call from a key woman on our team, our event manager – hotel openings, trade shows and so on, a vital part of the business.  She wanted me to deal with my VP for the insurance market, a pro-football hall of famer, who was hitting on her at many of these openings and events.  My predecessor had chosen to not deal with the issue; she was angry and testing the new boy. Our in-house football hero was a favorite of Bill’s, getting his family down onto the Redskin sidelines every home game, and so on. He emceed every hotel opening event. What was I to do?  Should I blow the whistle on him to HR? To Bill? I was brand new. I chickened out. I confronted the VP, who thought it was funny – he knew he was untouchable.  The events manager continued to do good work for us but had lost respect for me. But he did stop hitting on her.  Others? Never caught him at it. 

At Westin, history repeated: my VP Sales was hitting on his saleswomen, repeatedly. On his first offense after a warning, I moved to fire him but the Chairman would not let me; he and the VP’s father were vacation cabin buddies.  But I made it clear to all that I would no longer tolerate prejudicial, discriminatory, or harassment behavior and it pretty well stuck. 

 The hotel industry, I came to know, was and still is rife with sexual harassers and male chauvinists: too many attractive young men and women, too many available bedrooms, too easy access to booze and receptions. I fired second offender sexual harassers but put up with and worked around anti-gay and racist attitudes so long as they did not affect performance. But what of team? And what did I owe victims? I had climbed some of the rungs of the diversity, equity and inclusion ladder, but what about that “visible expectation of centrality” and what had I learned about the inner lives of Blacks and gays and working women? About how they saw working for Fletch.   

After retirement, as President of Horizon House, a Seattle retirement community, I encountered how difficult is inclusion, to get Blacks and Asians to consider communal living in predominately white community.  As a rowing coach I encountered the reality of impediments that kept black kids from coming and learning to row. As Trustee and later President of Pratt, Seattle’s leading art school, I was confronted full-on by a Black activist with a personal rather than an organizational agenda. He had once proclaimed me an ally but as soon as I was presiding, he became a disruptive challenger. Through that painful episode, I learned to what extent victimhood can be used for personal ends and that sometimes it takes being tough to keep the train on its tracks.  

In seven years of DEI effort at Pratt, in classes for all employees under guidance of expert consultants, in working with Trustees and employees on our Race Equity committee, I’ve come to realize that, as my classmate Professor Al Prettyman puts it, America doesn’t have a Black problem, America has a White problem. Al says, “colored people know all about white people; only those whites that seek to know, know anything about colored people.”

It took the murder of George Floyd to give me a peek into those unknown inner lives.  The anguish and trauma our Black associates felt, their passion, so evident, their brown associates’ empathy so genuine, it gave me a glimpse. The assumption of centrality crumbled as I realized that I was the “other, the stranger” seeking to be included and welcomed.

So, the education of an old white guy must continue.  How do we teach people to value and to seek diversity?  How do we teach people to act in spite of recognizing otherness, a person not of my family or clan or tribe?

To paraphrase Winston Churchill: so much to learn, so little time.

Out and About #3

Monday, I was promoted to Past-President of Pratt. To celebrate, yesterday Ann and I got out of the house for the third time since end of February and headed to Mt Rainier.  Perfect day-- mid-60's, bright sun, gentle breeze.  It was a bit of a test for me to see how well I could still hike what with long lay-off and a hernia awaiting surgery in October.  We chose one of our favorite (and easier) hikes: Sheep Lake and Sourdough Gap.  Trailhead is above Chinook Pass on the Northeast corner of the National Park. 

Sheep Lake

That's how I usually see my younger hiking partner, eating her dust in anti-social distancing. 

We paused for a breather, though it's pretty flat to here.

From Sheep, a mile up to Sourdough Gap, a 15% grade.  That's Mt Adams on the horizon, Sheep Lake below. About half-way up.

Sourdough Gap is @ 6,414'; trailhead a bit over 5,300'.

On the Gap, Ann wanted me to stop, but we went on for one can't see Rainier from here and I wanted again to get out to one of our favorite lunch spots in the Park.  Haven't done this hike in five years or so.

Through the Gap and down into a scree field and junction with Pacific Crest Trail.

Then through a saddle and down into the National Park and my old friend; looking a bit scruffy with lots of dust accumulating on her flanks, awaiting a new coat of snow.

Made it!  Mother hen-ing Ann proud of her old rooster.   (And made it down, too.)

The Impossible Dream -- The Great American Novel

 

This post grew out of a speech I gave to my luncheon club three weeks ago (by Webex.)

“To dream the impossible dream” – do American authors still dream of writing the Great American Novel?  

The phrase was coined in 1868 by John William De Forest in a review of Harriet Beecher Stowe’s Uncle Tom’s Cabin.  It quickly became such a cliché that Henry James, in 1880, acronymed it (may Tom Johnston, my Hamilton English Prof, forgive me) to GAN.  19thC critics had it easier than today’s to catalog and nominate the GAN; the usual suspects back then:

• Hawthorne’s The Scarlet Letter
• Melville’s Moby Dick
• Twain’s Huckleberry Finn  (I gave my superb 2nd edition copy to a granddaughter who revered the book.) 
• Crane’s The Red Badge of Courage

 As some of you know, my usual reading is of non-fiction – history, biography, science, politics and civic affairs.  Thus far this year, I have read only seven such.  The Pandemic perhaps is to blame for my turn to fiction for escape and for a hunt for meaning rather than facts.  It started with diving again into Tudor England by re-reading Hillary Mantel’s Wolf Hall and Bring Up the Bodies in preparation for The Mirror and the Light, finale of her trilogy of ambition, rise from humble beginnings, power, overreach and fall, Shakespearean in its universality.  Then came La Peste, naturally, (curious, the feminine) followed by more Camus and Celine; then more English and Canadian and Columbian, finally to re-reading and reading anew American fiction.  I’ve been lost in it for the last several weeks.

 The last time I was on a fiction binge was during my first wife’s illness – those periods of chaos and crises.  Perhaps that is what drives me into fiction, which has the power to expose and engage human meaning in a way non-fiction cannot.  You can read all the studies you want of Napoleon’s invasion of Russia, but the truth of it is revealed by Tolstoy in War and Peace  just as is the truth of the revolution’s survival by Pasternak’s Dr. Zhivago.

 Is any in what I’ve immersed myself the Great American Novel?  Not likely; not likely that there is any such thing. A GAN should have breadth of scale and scope; it should explore the American character and reveal truths about us, about what makes us uniquely American.  The problem for an author, of course, is that the essence of America is change; no novel can keep up.  One is a GAN only for a specific era, a passing through.   

 Here are possible 20^thC GAN’s:

• Upton Sinclair’s The Jungle
• Sinclair Lewis’ Main Street
• The Great Gatsby by Fitzgerald
• Steinbeck’s Grapes of Wrath
• Dos Passos’ USA
• Faulkner’s Absalom, Absalom
• Salinger’s Catcher in the Rye
• Steinbeck again: East of Eden
• Kerouac’s On the Road
• Heller’s Catch 22
• Ellison’s Invisible Man
• Harper Lee’s To Kill a Mockingbird
• McMurtry’s Lonesome Dove
• Baldwin’s Go Tell It On the Mountain
• Cormac McCarthy’s Blood Meridian
• Pynchon’s Gravity’s Rainbow
• Roth’s American Pastoral
• Malamud’s The Natural
• Updike’s The Rabbit Quartet                      
• Morrison’s Beloved 

In my humble estimation, those would make a Great American Library –especially if you add Hemingway’s Big Two-Hearted River collection of short stories.  But you, no doubt, would nominate many more.

My friend Roger, whose Dancing on Their Tails has a touch of greatness in it (a story of male bonding, of sensitivity and empathy hiding behind a facade of crude, chauvinist machismo) notes that Vonnegut, whose Slaughter House Five he favors, and Heller and Salinger really had only one good novel in them.  Is that PTSD of WWII? he asks.  Is the great Viet Nam novel yet to come? I ask.  

It’s impossible to encompass in any one book this ever-evolving, ever-changing country – America more in constant change than Britain or France or Russia from which great novels have come. The Great American Novel can only be the GAN for a period, an era, a passage of time – but the moral of each must be timeless.

 My nominees, for universality and relevance to us in this now of economic, health, and political angst:

Uncommon sense and the Presumption of White Superiority

Irreverence and Freedom of Youth

Piety and Hypocrisy

 

Blackness and Coming of Age

Relentless Search for Better

Idiocy In and Of War

Hardship of Migration

Indelible Legacy of Family

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A Brief Political Announcement

BYEDON

Not original: saw this today during our four mile walk, followed by beer and fried onion rings at the Roanoke (effectively undoing all the good done.)